Tuesday, August 24, 2010

The phenomenon of the single ladies

All the single ladies,
now put your hands up, up in the club…I am sure there are many!

At a girls night a few weeks back the topic of being over 25 and single with no prospects coming up. With red wine glasses in hand and beautiful plates of home cooked food the topic was explored.

Present in the room we had 7 girls;
-        - all with atleast one (some three) university degrees
-        - all with successful careers
-        - all living on their own with their own houses
-        - all capable of running a household
-        - all slender and goodlooking
-        - all fun and confident
-        - all intelligent and interesting
-        - all polite and definitely marriage material

Four had experienced recent painful breakups( and single ofcourse), two were single and only one of these 7, highly eligible girls had a prospect of tying the knot in the near future.

Now, this might look like an isolated incident but in I have atleast 8 more friends in completely different circles and countries over the age of 30 (some nearing 40) that answer to all the above criteria.

One of the reasons we mulled over (while sipping gluhwein) was that as women we experience so much pressure to be independent and successful that we maybe intimidate the boys (maybe the mere mention of ‘boys’ are the problem where are then men?)? We are all so focused on getting ahead that when we stop to look around the boys (men) have been left behind?

And the results are scary, for society and for women. A recent article in Fairlady called I chose to be a single parent  quoted this scary statistc ;
“According to last year’s AMPS, 64% of the 1,8 million women with children under the age of two are single.”

64% ?Interesting stat. Where have all the good men gone?
Sitting at another dinner table another ‘single lady’ (aged 35+) proclaimed that if she is not married in the next year she will have a baby on her own.

This is not an isolated incident as the article states;
When Lynn Giles hit 37, her biological clock started ticking loudly and, with no relationship in sight, she investigated other options.”

So looks like our options are either raise a child on your own or, revert back to the 1950’s style of being a woman (housewife);

Step 1: As a housewife of the 1950's you won't be required to hold a job outside the home. In fact you really won't be allowed to because it would be an insult to the male of the family for not being able to provide for his wife and family! So relax and buy a box of bonbon' s

Step 13: Now it's time for you to go to the bedroom, turn down the covers, fluff the pillows, take a quick shower and put on a pretty nightie, put on fresh makeup, do your hair again down this time and call for hubby to come to bed.

You read while he relaxes and when he is ready for a little fun you will be just as ready and excited he is giving you his time.

Oh,oh...he is tired now and finished. He rolls over, goes to sleep and you slip away to the bathroom to put on fresh makeup in case he wakes in the middle of the night and sees your face.

You must always look your very best!

Hmmm…not really what we have been taught hey? So all the bra burning was in vain?

In the famous last words of Beyonce; If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it. Boys, we need some men!


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